The time will come
When, with elation,
You will greet yourself arriving
At your own door, in your own mirror,
And will smile at the other's welcome
Poet, Derek Walcott
Do you struggle with feeling annoyed, irritated, or impatient with yourself? Do you frequently notice critical and judgmental "voices" in your head-focusing more on your weaknesses than your strengths? Maybe you have expectations of yourself that would feel unreasonable to have of others. Perhaps you know how to be gentle, kind, and caring to others, but not yourself.
Some of us say "yes" to requests we'd really like to say "no" to. Maybe you agree automatically because you're uncertain what you'd like or you're afraid to hurt the others' feelings or fear their disappoval. If it's hard to tell where the others' needs end and yours begin, it's hard to feel contentment.
Self compassion, self esteem and viewing yourself through a positive lens are essential to living fully. Blame, harshly turned inward, whittles away life energy. Life can be hard enough; it's important to be on your own side.
What is a relationship with Self? Not unlike relationships with others, establishing a healthy and satisfying relationship with yourself requires getting to "know" yourself. You might ask questions like:
-How am I right now?
-Am I hungry, tired, or thirsty?
-Do I feel any pain, either physically or emotionally?
-What makes me feel angry? Joyful? Sad? Elated? Disappointed? Comforted?
-How do I deal with hard to bear emotions?
-To what degree do I feel purpose and meaning in my life?
-What activities make me feel engaged in and passionate about my life? When do I experience a string of moments of ok-ness?
-How do I talk to myself? What is the impact of how I talk to myself?
Embracing knowledge about yourself and learning how to emphasize your qualities can create a real shift in your experience.
If you'd like help resolving these kinds of issues or struggle with depression, anxiety or chronically stressful living, consider investing in your well being via professional counseling. Why not contact me at my Albany, New York office and we'll work to get you started?
I can be reached by phone at (518) 456-7030 or email at [email protected].
See how you score on the Self Compassion Test created by Dr.Kristen Neff of the University of Texas Austin- http://www.self-compassion.org/
When, with elation,
You will greet yourself arriving
At your own door, in your own mirror,
And will smile at the other's welcome
Poet, Derek Walcott
Do you struggle with feeling annoyed, irritated, or impatient with yourself? Do you frequently notice critical and judgmental "voices" in your head-focusing more on your weaknesses than your strengths? Maybe you have expectations of yourself that would feel unreasonable to have of others. Perhaps you know how to be gentle, kind, and caring to others, but not yourself.
Some of us say "yes" to requests we'd really like to say "no" to. Maybe you agree automatically because you're uncertain what you'd like or you're afraid to hurt the others' feelings or fear their disappoval. If it's hard to tell where the others' needs end and yours begin, it's hard to feel contentment.
Self compassion, self esteem and viewing yourself through a positive lens are essential to living fully. Blame, harshly turned inward, whittles away life energy. Life can be hard enough; it's important to be on your own side.
What is a relationship with Self? Not unlike relationships with others, establishing a healthy and satisfying relationship with yourself requires getting to "know" yourself. You might ask questions like:
-How am I right now?
-Am I hungry, tired, or thirsty?
-Do I feel any pain, either physically or emotionally?
-What makes me feel angry? Joyful? Sad? Elated? Disappointed? Comforted?
-How do I deal with hard to bear emotions?
-To what degree do I feel purpose and meaning in my life?
-What activities make me feel engaged in and passionate about my life? When do I experience a string of moments of ok-ness?
-How do I talk to myself? What is the impact of how I talk to myself?
Embracing knowledge about yourself and learning how to emphasize your qualities can create a real shift in your experience.
If you'd like help resolving these kinds of issues or struggle with depression, anxiety or chronically stressful living, consider investing in your well being via professional counseling. Why not contact me at my Albany, New York office and we'll work to get you started?
I can be reached by phone at (518) 456-7030 or email at [email protected].
See how you score on the Self Compassion Test created by Dr.Kristen Neff of the University of Texas Austin- http://www.self-compassion.org/