Are you ever criticized in a manipulative way? You know, your spouse or partner ways "You're so selfish, you never want to do what I ask!" Or your parent says, "Why can't you be more like your sister! SHE always comes to visit me". The upshot is your loved one is trying to get you to behave differently. Of course you always have the option of deciding to go along with their request-except that it's really not a request but a tactic to make you feel guilted into doing what they ask. What to do?
Try fogging them. Fogging, you say? Fogging is an assertiveness technique where you agree with the kernel of truth in what the other says without buying into the whole "argument" or changing your behavior. When you agree with the piece of the statement that you DO believe is true it tends to take the wind out of the sails of the criticizer. TBC.....
Try fogging them. Fogging, you say? Fogging is an assertiveness technique where you agree with the kernel of truth in what the other says without buying into the whole "argument" or changing your behavior. When you agree with the piece of the statement that you DO believe is true it tends to take the wind out of the sails of the criticizer. TBC.....